What Relationships Mean in Our Lives

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Boyfriends and Girlfriends

 

Being in Love

Love at First Sight

Boyfriend and Girlfriend - True Friendship?

What a Boyfriend or Girlfriend Must Be Like

Time Spent Together

Boyfriend / Girlfriend and Other Friends

Meet My Parents!

 

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Being in Love

Have you ever been in love? Did you find it special?

I have never been in love, so I can't say if it's special or not. But some people say that love is special because then you have butterflies in your stomach.
S., girl, Germany

I am in love and of course it's special. I have had a boyfriend for about a year now and it's kind of normal to be together with him. I still love him as much as I did in the beginning but some routine always gets into a relationship. But the feeling you feel when you fall in love is the best I have ever known!
S., girl, Germany

All you need is love. Love lift us up where we belong. Sometimes love hurts but sometimes it makes you fly on a cloud.
P., girl, Spain

 

Love at First Sight

Is it possible fall in love at first sight? Is it better to know the person first?

I think it's so so. Firstly you can think that someone is unique. Then you can know this person and fall in love with him/her. But I think it is better to fall in love with someone whom you already know. For me appearance doesn't matter. It can help to make me interested in some person, but remember, "don't judge a book by its cover".
E., girl, Poland

It's not about how he or she looks. I think that you can fall in love at first sight. When things that affect us happen our eyes are always closed, e.g. they are closed when we're happy, when we're relieved, when we cry, when we kiss. This is because the most beautiful things aren't seen with our eyes, there seen with our hearts.
K., girl, United Kingdom

I think it's possible to feel like you're in love at first sight, but I think that true love would go a lot further than just looks, so I think you can only be in love with someone you know well.
M., girl, United Kingdom

 

Boyfriend and Girlfriend - True Friendship?

In your opinion, is a true friendship possible between a girl and a boy?

What kind of question is that? Of course there can be a true friendship between girls and boys. Look at me. I've got more girls than friends as boys and with most of them I`m in a very big friendship!
D., boy, Germany

i also think it's possible! For example, one of my best friends is a boy whom I've know for 11 years. So of course it works.
H., girl, Germany

Yes of course! They can support each other in hard times like a boy with a boy or girl with a girl. It's NORMAL!
E., girl, Poland

Yes, a boy and a girl can have a really good friendship just like a girl and a girl can have. Maybe a girl and a boy are different in some ways, but a boy would also understand a girl in a different way than a girl would.
K., girl, Denmark

I think a boy and a girl could be friends without being boyfriend and girlfriend. It's nice to have friends of both sexes.
P., girl, Spain

 

What a Boyfriend or Girlfriend Must Be Like

What qualities must a person have to become your boyfriend or girlfriend?

I think a girlfriend/boyfriend has to be true to you and you have to like the same or very different things.
D., boy, Germany

Funny, intelligent, handsome, caring, just to mention some qualities.
S., girl, Germany

He must be my friend! I must just like and trust this person. That's enough. I don't have any dream-boy. But there is one feature which he must have. He has to be funny and must be able to make me smile!
E., girl, Poland

I think that they shouldn't just be your boyfriend/girlfriend, they should also be your best friend, because otherwise it's not going to last very long. They should be kind, funny and easy to talk to.
M., girl, United Kingdom

that must be a someone who can I trust, who will support me, who will talk with me about my problems, who will not control me, who makes me laugh, someone who is protective.
D., girl, Spain

 

Time Spent Together

If you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, how much time do you spend together?

I only spend time with my boyfriend on weekends, because we both have a lot to do. I don't mind it because the less we see of each other, the more we are happy when we meet. I have enough time for my friends during the week and I can concentrate on school. So I like the way it is and I don't want to change it.
S., girl, Germany

My brother has got a girlfriend and they meet every day. My father said to me, 'it is too much time'.
K., girl, Poland

If you have a girlfriend or a boyfriend the normal thing for me it is to be with her or him a lot of time because you are in love and you want to spend all the time with your girlfriend, but I think it is important not to forget your friends, too. We can have time for all.
O., boy, Spain

 

Boyfriend / Girlfriend and Other Friends

Has having a boyfriend or girlfriend affected your relationship with your other friends?

No! I hate people who neglect their friends because they have a boyfriend/girlfriend. Of course you want to spend time with your love and you should! But is your boyfriend/girlfriend more important than your friends?
S., girl, Germany

I think that friends are the most important. A boyfriend or girlfriend is with you for some time, sometimes longer, sometimes shorter. Friends are still with you and they are these people to which you go in hard moments. Without a boyfriend/girlfriend you can live normally but I can't imagine my life without friends. So, I think this "special person" can't be more important than them.
E., girl, Poland

I think that, depending on the relation with your girlfriend or boyfriend, we sometimes are obsessed with this person and lose our friends, and when we finish the relationship we are alone. But if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend and you meet with him or her and you meet with your friends at the same time you will always have friends.
J., boy, Spain

 

Meet My Parents!

Have you ever taken your boyfriend / girlfriend home (e.g. to see your parents)?

My father knows my boyfriend and he is okay with that. He has never done anything awkward towards him and I wasn't afraid to introduce him to my father. They get along with each other and that is how it should be.
S., girl, Germany

It isn't good idea. My father believes I'm a little girl (5 years). But in the future when it will be a long relationship I'll do this.
K., girl, Poland

No, this is bad idea. My mother would begin to question my girl and this would be a bit stupid for me.
M., boy, Poland

No, I haven't , this is mainly because I live with my dad and he can be kind of embarrassing, but that would probably be the worst thing that I would have to worry about. He wouldn't judge me (at least not out loud) because he knows that I make my own choices and can take care of myself but he would still be there for me if I needed him.
K., girl, United Kingdom

I think parents should respect our decisions and they can give advice but not make our decisions.
L., boy, Spain