What Relationships Mean in Our Lives
Is it important for you to belong to a clique, group or gang?
Yes it is. In my opinion , it's important to have social contacts and of course most importantly in one's peer group. In groups, there's a strong feeling of belonging - and that's good, also for people who don't get that much love in their family, which is sad enough.
No, it isn't important for me. Sometimes in a group people are the same, not different. They like to look the same, do the same things, like the same music and you must like it too when you want to be in this group. I know some groups are different and you can be yourself.
I think it's important to be in a group of friends, because it means that you always have someone there, but you shouldn't just stick to that group - you should also talk to other people, so you're not limited to just a certain amount of people.
I think you always can be more comfortable with a group because you have similar likes or other things. But you should not stay always with the same group, because sometimes it could be a bit boring, and that is why I think you should meet new people.
Does your class have several cliques to which you can belong?
Yes, I'm in a four-girl team. But I try to talk to everyone.
In my class there are about 5-6 cliques. I think I belong to two of them but I can speak with everyone very well, except 5 people.
In my class are about 6 cliques :
In our class are some "cliques" and we also try not to exclude anybody. It´s normal to have cliques in the class. There are two boys groups. One of them talk about football and analyze all games. The other boys group talks over Computer games most of the time. Then there are the girls: I think there are three groups but I can´t say that they have a name. They are friends who stand together and talk about something. But we are not only in the groups, we talk with all of our classmates. Then we are one group. I think we are like all other classes.
Yes, in my class are four groups: the mixed one (about 11 people, I belong to this group), the guys, the "nerds", and the girls. But sometimes we all are in several groups.
Has your relationship with your peer group changed over time?
Yes, it has. At first I had nothing to do with most guys in my peer group, but now, I like them so much …
I spend my time which passes in school with this year's friends. I do not have enough time for last year's friends but I go to see them if I can.
Of course, the behavior has changed. Now I treat my friends with more respect than some years ago. I appreciate my friends because I know what real friendship means. And also we do other things in our free-time. In primary school, for example, we played with marbles or other little games and now we go to the cinema or we stand together and talk about something.
I think it has to a certain extent, because I am close to different people than, say, five years ago, but although our relationship has changed, I'm still good friends with many friends from when I was young.
At the beginning me and my best friends were only friends, but we have spent so much time together and things have changed. Now we are very close and we talk about everything.